Where's the fight?

Most of my writings have been about little things here are there that you may come across once in a while. I'd rather not write about things such as religion, politics, racism, gun control, or war because these are things that are normally set in a person's head. These types of things are normally learned from an early age and many many years go in each person's decision on those particular subjects. Not to mention they can be very touchy subjects. I prefer to write about smaller things that make people think a little. Things like being nice and friendly to your fellow neighbor. Things like being careful on the roads when driving. Things like thinking about an action before actually doing it. These things are things that that people have a hard time debating because the general population feel as though we could improve in those areas. This next subject may be a little bit touchy to some and it may be on the fence between the two. I am just recently engaged. July 3 to be exact. Now we set our date for Sept 23 this week so we'll be married fairly quickly, which in my eyes is what's suppose to happen. You date, you propose, you marry. What other road can you take to get to marriage? Well, as I told family and friends about this I got a world of different reactions. One friend said "wow a 2 month engagement...you work fast!" Is an engagement suppose to be for a long time? What's an exceptable time limit? We have already decided that we both want to be married or I wouldn't have asked and she wouldn't have excepted. Why in the world would I want to be "engaged" for a long time when I can be married and we both know that's where we're going to be anyway? What's the point of even asking someone to marry you if all you want to do is continue to date with a ring involved? Now I'll go out on a limb and say an engagement is a step up from dating but the only reason I could even think of waiting would be to wait for money, or to wait for a certain date to perform the wedding. Well neither were issues with us so we set the date as early as possible. I was talking to a good friend's father and when he asked when we set the date I told him Sep. He said he did the same thing when his wife asked him "When do you want to get married?" He told her "Now! If I wanted to marry you later I would have asked you later!" I thought this was great! What's the point in waiting any longer? I don't get it! I told another family member that we were getting married and he just looked at me for a minute before he said "If that's what you think you have to do, then do it. You can always get a divorce!" I was pretty much shocked! When in the world did it become OK for people to just marry and separate? I thought vows where forever! Till death do us part if my wedding memory serves me correctly. In sickness and in health. In this life and the next. I'm not going to sit here and say that under no circumstances a divorce is right brcause some do call for a divorce but going into a marriage with divorce in mind is part of the reason that there is over a 50% divorce rate. When did we start giving up? When did we lose the fight that people use to have back in the day? For many years it was unheard of to separate your spouse. Now 1 out of every 2 couples will split. Maybe you can call me old fashion but I'm not going to sit here and start my marriage with failure in mind. I'm not going to tell myself that it's all going to be fine because when it gets tough I can bail. I'm not going to promise a person my heart for the entirety of my life and then back out on her when things aren't going my way. Relationships are hard. It is prolly the toughest thing a person can go through. Everyday is different and everyday can be an up and down rollercoaster type struggle. And it doesn't get easier after time and things never settle. It's a constant revolving door of change coming in and routine going out. You have to fight to keep things together and the day one of the two stop fighting is when they are doomed to fail. People have become OK with giving up and it makes me sad. I feel bad for those people with no fight inside them. I feel bad for the spouses that do have some fight but get none in return. It makes me upset to know that it is now OK to give up on the "supposedly" most important person in your life and turn your back on them. And it scares me to death to know that people quit on what is suppose to be the best thing that has happened to them. It scares me because if they can do that, walk out and leave the person they love more than anything, I'm terrified to think what they would do to me or any other common neighbor. I often wish we would change the list of things that are most important to us and start placing people closer to the top.
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